ROCD
Relationship OCD explained: constant doubts about your partner or your feelings, why reassurance backfires, and what helps.
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These are real statements from the ocd.app app. For each one, decide: is it OCD thinking that keeps the cycle going, or a helpful thought to practise?
- I must re-check all the time
- I have to check my choices
- Seeking reassurance is the only way to relax
- Checking repeatedly is a must
- I can let go of my need to re-check
- I reject my urge for reassurance seeking
- I can stop checking!
- I don't have to repeat things
Exposure and response prevention (ERP) means facing the thoughts OCD makes you avoid, without doing the ritual. Pick a thought from the app that makes you uneasy, then stay with it.
- One thing I can't tolerate is the urge to check
- Coping without checking is impossible
- I can't cope without checking
- Never stop checking!
- I can't deal with life without reassurance
- I have to check my choices
- Seeking reassurance is the only way to relax
- I need reassurance
- I must listen to my urge to check
- I'll die without reassurance from others
An urge is a wave: it rises, peaks and passes, even when you do nothing. Breathe with the circle for 40 seconds — in for 4, out for 6 — and let the urge be there without acting on it.
I can let go of my need to re-check
Educational practice, not therapy or a diagnosis. More exercises from the app · Practise daily in the ocd.app app →
Practise what you read, a few minutes a day
The ocd.app app turns these ideas into short daily exercises, built with clinical psychologists and backed by 22 peer-reviewed studies.
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